How to Enjoy Spending Time with Someone who Makes you Feel Uncomfortable

How to Enjoy Spending Time with Someone who Makes you Feel Uncomfortable

You’re probably wondering what I mean by that. I’m not talking that-guy-at-the-bar-has-been-staring-at-me-for-an-hour kind of uncomfortable. Let me explain.

A lot of people wouldn’t guess this about me, but I harbor a deep, dark secret. I would love to work at a factory job (or similar type of shift work), where I work a designated number of hours a week (determined by someone else, not me!). This career path would allow me to go home at a particular, expected time every day. I’d probably squeeze in a workout (I’d still be me, after all), and then park my derriere in a comfortable chair and watch Netflix all night long while scarfing down chocolate chips right out of the bag.

Imagine! How dependable would my life be? But then I get to thinking…I might be comfortable, technically, but I think I’d also spend too much time thinking about a different life. A better life. Staying in your comfort zone and finding fulfillment through mindless forms of entertainment regularly will never make you happy. I mean, we all enjoy a Netflix “Friends” marathon with a side of wine and chips, but we can’t do it every day. You’d feel sluggish, mindless, cut off from the outside world. And this, my friends, is the harsh truth of allowing yourself to become too comfortable.

Even today, running Aspire and coaching 50+ clients, there are still comfort zone traps all around me. There are countless “opportunities” or traps seeking to keep me exactly where I am now. And, for now, there’s nothing wrong with where I am. But I don’t always want to be here.

I’m fortunate enough to be able to recognize when I’m becoming complacent. Beyond that, I have chosen to surround myself with people who make me feel uncomfortable; people who force me to question my comfort status.

This probably makes sense to you, when you really think about it. If you were to make a list of all of the people who have had the most positive impact on your life (family, friends, teachers, co-workers, coaches), you could probably recognize them as people who forced you to come out of your comfort zone. These are probably people who pushed you and encouraged you to reach your full potential (even if you didn’t believe you could do it). Because of these people, you’ve accomplished many things in your life, things that you probably never imagined yourself doing.

These are the kinds of people you need to spend more time with.

I’ve been able to find these people through networking within my career field. Attending fitness and nutrition seminars affords me the opportunity to talk to others in my field who are aspiring to be their best selves and challenge their friends and clients to do the same.

How can you introduce a comfort challenger into your life? Join one of our on-line Total Body Transformation Projects. Read our blogs. Send that first email to enquire about personal training or our running program. Once you’ve made contact, you’ve set yourself up to enter into a relationship with a coach who is going to challenge you to change your life.

I’m not saying it’s easy. You’ve probably had people in your life who’ve challenged you before. Perhaps you ended that friendship. Maybe you felt like you were in the right and they were wrong. It’s sometimes easier for us to avoid these relationships because it affords us the chance to be self-righteous.

However, once you do let a person into your life who makes you question your current lifestyle and choices, you’ll find that, with the right attitude, you’ll be able to do some inner reflection and recognize that, yes, there are some things you could improve on. The more you let this person in, the more you’ll identify changes within yourself. You’ll start to see a happier, better version of ‘you’.

Once you get the ball rolling with this new way of thinking and embracing these people in your life, you’ll find that your life is more enjoyable, more fulfilling.

So, take the first step. Embrace the discomfort that comes with changing your ways.